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What If I Choose Wrong?

Believe me, I’ve heard that excuse soooo many times.

And here the problem start...
You’ve got multiple interests, ideas, projects, passions, products, job offers, blah, blah, blah. They all sound cool. All have serious potential, pluses, minuses, risks and rewards.

So,
Which do I choose? And, oh my, what if I choose WRONG?!?!

















So many people get so hung up on not wanting to make the wrong choice that they never choose, never act, never engage, never experience, never live, never have the opportunity to succeed, fail, adjust, grow, thrive.

They keep having the conversation in their head. Because they’re terrified of having to retread and start fresh on a new path after a choice that leads them to invest time, energy and resources on something that falls short of their aspirations.

Guess what, you may have to do just that. You may find yourself months or even years down the road starting along a new path.

But, what you miss when you choose not to choose is that choosing “wrong,” and even crashing and burning almost always has extraordinary value.
And, with rare exception, it’s not only recoverable, but hugely educational and empowering IF you choose to experience it as such.

 Outside here, there is no right or wrong choice, only decision, action, awakening and movement…as long as you’re open to elevating growth and engagement as core life metrics.

You may well get lucky and choose a path that leads to instant, exponential reward. You may take a more circuitous path that bumps and steels along the way. 

But, one thing’s certain…
Choose not to choose and you automatically lose.

"When forced with a difficult decision or too many possibilities, don't freeze up. Because.. 

"The only wrong choice is no choice."

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10 Things Happy People Do Differently

Happiness 

~is emotions experienced when in a state of well-being or State of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy (wordweb 2012)

How happy are you 

and why? 

This is a question i ask myself all the time..

Here is what they do differently

:

1)  They build a strong social fabric. Happy people stay connected to their families, neighbors, places of worship, and communities. These strong connections act as a buffer to depression and create strong, meaningful connections.

2)  They engage in activities that fit their strengths, values and lifestyle. One size does not fit all when it comes to happiness strategies. You tailor your workout to your specific fitness goals – happy people do the same thing with their emotional goals. 

3)  They practice gratitude. Gratitude does the body good. It helps you cope with trauma and stress, increases self-worth and self-esteem when you realize how much you’ve accomplished, and often helps dissolve negative emotions. Research also suggests that the character strength of gratitude is a fairly strong correlate with life satisfaction (Park, et.al., 2004).

4)  They have an optimistic thinking style. Happy people reign in their pessimistic thinking in three ways. First, they

focus their time and energy on where they have control. They know when to move on if certain strategies aren’t working or if they don’t have control in a specific area. 

Second, they know that “this too shall pass.” Happy people “embrace the suck” and understand that while the ride might be bumpy at times, 

it won’t last forever. 

Finally, happy people are good at compartmentalizing. They don’t let an adversity in one area of their life seep over into other areas of their life.

5)  They know it’s good to do good. Happy people help others by volunteering their time. Research shows a strong association betweenhelping behavior and well-being, health, and longevity. Acts of kindness help you feel good about yourself and others, and the resulting positive emotions enhance your psychological and physical resilience (Post, 2005).

6)  They know that material wealth is only a very small part of the equation. 

Happy people have a healthy perspective about how much joy material possessions will bring. 

Materialism not bring happiness,  One study examined the attitudes of 12,000 freshman when they were eighteen, then measured their life-satisfaction at age thirty-seven. Those who had expressed materialistic aspirations as freshmen were less satisfied with their lives two decades later.

7)  They develop healthy coping strategies. Happy people encounter stressful life adversities, but they have developed successful coping strategies. Posttraumatic growth is the positive personal changes that result from an individual’s struggle to deal with highly challenging life events.

there are 5 factors or areas of growth after a challenging event: 

~renewed appreciation for life, ~recognizing new paths for your life, ~enhanced personal strength, ~improved relationships with others, ~spiritual growth. 

 Happy people become skilled at seeing the good that might come from challenging times.

8)  They focus on health. Happy people take care of their mind and body and manage their stress. Focusing on your health, though, doesn’t just mean exercising. Happy people actually act like happy people. They smile, are engaged, and bring an optimal level of energy and enthusiasm to what they do.

9)  They cultivate spiritual emotions.  there is a growing body of science suggesting that religious people are happier, healthier, and recover more quickly from trauma than nonreligious people. 
spiritual emotions are essential to psychological wealth and happiness because they help us connect to something larger than ourselves.

10)  They have direction. Working toward meaningful life goals is one of the most important strategies happy people utilize. Happy people have values that they care about and outcomes that are worth working for (Diener & Biswas-Diener, 2008).

"Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. "

Source : http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/pressure-proof/201210/10-things-happy-people-do-differently